What I Believe (That Builds My Confidence)
8 Beliefs that anchor you when your brain wants to bail
Confidence is one of those things everyone talks about like it’s a personality trait. Like it’s baked into your DNA—or something you unlock once you’ve finally overcome your fear of public speaking, stopped overthinking, and learned how to keep your houseplants alive.
But for those of us with AuDHD or other flavors of neurodivergence, confidence isn’t just about being bold. It’s about being anchored. And the strongest anchor I’ve found?
Belief.
Not belief as in blind optimism—but belief as in clear, chosen, practiced thoughts that I come back to on purpose when my brain is spinning, my nervous system is glitching, or my executive function is throwing a temper tantrum.
These beliefs ground me. They redirect me.
They let me act—even when I’m not feeling brave.
And over time? They’ve built the kind of confidence that doesn’t crack when the WiFi drops or I forget what I was saying mid-sentence.
Here’s what I believe—and why it works.
1. I don’t have to feel ready to be ready.
Why this works:
Most ND brains run on delay—action first, clarity later. Hindsight, am I right?
Waiting until you feel confident? That’s a recipe for never starting. This belief flips the script. It tells your brain, “You’re already ready enough.”
Because bravery doesn’t mean absence of fear—it means moving with it.
2. I am allowed to be supported and still be strong.
Why this works:
Internalized ableism will whisper, “If you need help, you’re not capable,” or even worse "you're weak".
This belief shuts that nonsense down.
Getting or using supports doesn't make you weaker. They increase your resourcefulness, and conserve your energy so you can keep showing up.
3. Clarity is more important than comfort.
Why this works:
Most of us learned early to mask, nod, smile, pretend we’re fine.
But confidence isn’t compliance—it’s communication.
This belief gives you permission to ask for clarity without shame.
Because pretending to understand is the fast track to overwhelm. Asking questions is how you reclaim your agency.
4. Trying counts. Repair counts. Showing up counts.
Why this works:
Your brain might erase progress because it wasn’t “perfect.”
But confidence doesn’t grow from flawless performance, it grows from evidence that you’re still in the game.
This belief reframes effort as success, and mistakes as momentum.
5. I am not for everyone—and that’s not a problem.
Why this works:
People-pleasing is exhausting. Especially when your brain is already playing 4D chess just to get through the day.
Confidence means you stop bending yourself into pretzels for approval. This belief reclaims your shape, and your time.
6. I don’t have to mask to belong.
Why this works:
Masking is the socially acceptable version of “please like me.”
But it’s also what leads to burnout, disconnection, and identity confusion.
This belief invites you to be real—even if just 5% more today. Because belonging is built on authenticity, not performance.
7. Every time I move through fear, I build proof.
Why this works:
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s earned by repetition.
This belief turns every micro-brave move into evidence you can reference the next time imposter syndrome shows up uninvited.
8. It’s safe for me to take up space.
Why this works:
Many ND folks have a long history of being “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “too intense.”
This belief pushes back. It reminds you that your voice, your needs, and your presence belong—not someday, not when you’ve “earned it”—but now.
Want to Build Beliefs That Actually Move You Forward?
Confidence doesn’t come from hyping yourself up in the mirror.
It comes from building a core set of beliefs you can return to when things get loud inside.
Beliefs that work with your neurodivergent brain, not against it.
Beliefs that anchor you in clarity, not perfection.
Beliefs that keep you moving when motivation evaporates.
If you’re ready to build your own set of go-to beliefs—ones that feel like home instead of hustle—then you're ready to work with me.
🎯 Book a Power Hour with me and we’ll build the start of a belief system you can actually use—especially when everything feels foggy, overwhelming, or just plain hard.
You’re not broken. You’re building. Let’s make sure the foundation is solid.